In general, deciding a long-term senior care option for a loved one is a difficult decision. This decision can become more complicated when more than one family member is trying to make the decisions together. In the end, families will put aside their difference for the sake of their elder but along the way some issues may arise. Here are just a few.
- Siblings view parent’s needs differently. For example, one sibling may believe that their father is doing okay at home alone while the other feels they need at home care or to be moved into a facility. To solve this problem, families should seek guidance from an expert such as a geriatric care manager. They can assess the senior’s overall health and the level of safety to decide whether or not they can safely be alone. This will give families a definitive answer whether or not care is needed and at which level.
- Senior resists care. This is a very common situation where the family all agrees that care is needed but the elder is resistant. People do not like to admit when they need help, especially the elderly because it means they’re no longer capable of living on their own. The only way to change this is by getting your parent to understand that you are doing this out of love and that the facilities are not as dreadful as they seem. Instead, they can be comfortable and attractive.
- How to pay for long-term senior care. This is usually the most challenging part because long-term care can be expensive. Does one sibling have a higher income? Does this mean they should pay more towards the care? This can cause huge family conflicts. To prevent this, open conversation is necessary. Host a family meeting and establish how much money is needed and how much each family member believes they can contribute. When this discussion is held early on in the decision process, problems can be eliminated.
- End of life care. This is a hard topic to discuss in general, let alone when it involves someone you love. Everyone has a valid opinion. A way to avoid this is to have the senior come up with a living will before their medical state worsens. This gives the family clear cut instructions on how-to handle this situation.
Discussing options for senior care management isn’t usually an easy topic to talk about. However, with the right knowledge, it can be easier than ever to choose the right option for your loved one.